A CRYING MAN IS A SANE MAN

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#KhalaNdoda, Kubi. But S’ka Tepelela, Seun!

The state of affairs would bring anyone to tears.Among other things, bitter biting colds of winter down South Africa were doing the rounds esithi bhaythi-bhaythi pha na phaya emntwini. Bakwethu, Wednesday, June the first was the date. The year was 2022.Maddening times it was, and several explicit songs rang in the ear. One among them was Feel No Pain, performed by Sade, a British band led by the voice of Nigerian born Folisade Adu. It was a timeless tune that captured the socio-cultural state of affairs in 1992 when it got released. The song with an apt message formed part of the Love Delux album that features favourites including Kiss of Life, Cherish The Day and No Ordinary Love. Feel No Pain!Suddenly! “Oh! Mama Sade, my crush.” Momentarily, a man cried. “It is so hard not to feel the pain right now, not to moan. Mama, Papa, Brother and Sister got laid off for two years too long now – Can’t get a job. Since things of covid 19 started.” Indeed, haunted by lots of pain of hopelessness are South Africans. Swimming they were amid the mocking high unemployment rates and getting knifed with petrol prices. Additionally, interest rates had gone up as well as food costs. It was a living and lived blood bath of hell. Notably, William Mr Everything Mthethwa framed the situation in a song – Cost Of Living is Too High. Since 1987, even long before, the message rings true to this day. Thirty-five years later…, Yes, three decades and a half later – the crying sounds were still the same because of cost of living was too high.

SOMEONE DEMAND A NATIONAL MEN CRYING DAY

Then Sade asks in Feel No Pain. “Have you ever seen a man breakdown?” Under those circumstances, Malik and Ringo (sans red overalls) pierced – with their vocals- the air. “Mthulise, angakhali!” Aw’mama thulisa u baby angakhali. Indeed, angithi sibizana ngo baby kulamalanga, u baby uyakhala mama. Therefore, behold a lot of South African males breaking down. Here is an open secret! The male ego is fragile in many ways. However, should the HE symbol shed a single drop of tear, not Covid 19 Cyril Ramaphosa crocodile tears…,READ: http://”https://thivi.co.za/so-ramaphosa-must-go-aye-kwiniThen he was bound to get branded as weak. All because HE purely allowed free-flow of a human, not an exclusive preserve of female or male symbol…, but a human impulse.Hence the labelling could explain why most HE figures would avoid crying openly. Let alone spit out pains pounding them in their chests – lest they get torn with manipulative words that slice like a sharp razor First Cut Is The Deepest. You know, raspy-gritty Rod Steward things. So, enters the tough-guy image. As a sad result, the actioning of that posture tends to destroy others and the male symbol itself in the process.

STATISTICS SHOULD SHOCK A NATION TO ACTION

Significantly, reports point to at least twenty-three suicides on a South African day. That is nearly one act of self-murder for each hour. Every so often, some men murder women and children, unfortunately. For every female suicide, four males took their own lives. Men are fragile inside. Don’t believe the strong and tough hype peddled by some in society.The stress, every so often, of not being able to take care of those you love and care about can be too much. Yes, for a person that cares. We are talking about a human that wants to play a role in the upbringing of the African child. From January to September 2021, the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) received more than 75 000 calls from suicidal South Africans. Asiphinde futhi, yes, let this get repeated for emphasis. Aw’Mbeke esifubeni, we mama. Mthuli’s Angakhali mama, angaz’ adale umonakalo that sweep lives away.
NTOMBI messo OPENS HER BOSOMS
Occasionally, we ought to salute women by offering a shoulder, a bosom for a man to cry and do not judge. Not long ago, Ntombi Phiri offered her lean on my breasts act during the weekly nine to noon show she hosts on Radio 2000. Men mostly called in to sob about the stress caused by unemployment and increasing food prices. Hay’ as’khaleni madoda. Ngoana o salleng o shwela thareng. Furthermore, let us demand our right to shed tears and enjoy the benefits.
THE  BENEFITS OF CRYING
 In summary, here are just three of them. Research suggests emotional tears flush out of your system stress hormones and other toxins. Weeping releases feel-good chemicals that can help ease both physical and emotional pain. In addition to easing pain, sobbing lifts your spirits and improves your mood. Many quick breaths in between sobbing absorb cool air that regulates brain temperature.Hay’ enough is enough. So, phakama Ramaphosa Ixesha lifikile. Lead by example, weep not a politician’s crocodile tears but human tears. In conclusion, despite everything around us – let us march to the Stimela songs Singajindi Majita and Siyaya Phambili, angithi. Thani ehe phela, Sivumelane ne Stimela with Ray Phiri and Nana Coyote on Lead vocals. Siyaya Phambili is the title track from the 1991 Stimela album with songs like African Changes, Go On Living Your Life, and A Song Tells A Story. As long as we breathe, let us go on encouraging living our lives the better way.Help, In any event, for the struggling to deal with suicidal thoughts or depression can be received at SADAG. Their toll-free emergency suicide helpline is 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393. The 24-hour helpline is 0800 12 13 14, counselling helpline 011 234 4837 8 am to 8 pm. www.sadag.org.za Thre is also the LifeLine SA national counselling line, 0861 322 322.Please follow thivi @bmthivi on Twitter @bmthivi on Instagram. Also, like our Facebook Page, @bmthivi.  An exciting podcast read of this story is loading. Please come back later to enjoy.
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